Perspective! Are You In Charge?

Sunset, Ozumba Mbadiwe, Victoria Island, Lagos 10.04.2013
Sunset, Ozumba Mbadiwe, Victoria Island, Lagos 10.04.2013

Traffic was at a standstill! I needed to get home, exercise, cook, read! There were so many things I knew I could be doing with my time other than being stuck on the road. Then I looked in my side mirror, saw the skies and took this photograph!

As I look at it now, a lot of things come to mind, you can see the traffic, you can see the seeming chaos and if you look closely enough, you can almost see the frustration in the mis-alignment of the cars. Someone is just looking for a little space, so he can cut in front of the other! As if to say, ‘you might be fine with the traffic but I’m not! Argggh!’ And that was exactly how I felt till I looked in my side mirror (can you see the car that’s actually doing that? LOL! We all have road rage, some act it out and some don’t).
But then I looked and saw the sky and wow! It caused me to stop! Stop the churning, stop the anger! Look again but with fresh eyes! The skies were putting up a show! The sun was setting and lighting up the sky as if in romance! Like a lover bringing out the best in the other… There was something going on there and it was beautiful, calming, poignant… you almost felt like you were peeking into eternity!
The traffic eased and I moved on, with totally different feelings than I started out with! I now felt gratitude! Like it was good to be alive! Like life is beautiful- if you look closely enough! And in that moment, I realized I had been taught another lesson on perspective. That the circumstances that surround me can be the same but how I react to them and what I see even in those circumstances is totally up to me. That I can constantly choose life or choose to see the things that deplete me, see how everything is against me, see the traffic and what it stops me from doing! And you know what? When I choose to see how my circumstances deprive me, the circumstances don’t necessarily change so I suffer 2 griefs! The circumstance itself and the way I feel about it. But when I look, or in this case, stumble on something to be grateful for, though the circumstances remain the same, my perspective totally changes and I’m able to enjoy, even luxuriate in what looks adverse!
I’m sure you catch my drift and I’m sure you’ve been in situations where you looked with different eyes and then seen differently! So please share some of them with me! Also, if you had to name this photograph (above), what would you call it and why? Ciao! Looking to hear from you!


7 replies to “Perspective! Are You In Charge?

  1. Valerie Sodeinde It is a lovely picture that tells quite a story, if you look closely…

    The sunset, whilst beautiful, is the background for the craziness that is Lagos traffic. You can even see a car trying to do what Lagos drivers do best… cut across lanes, even when there doesn’t seem to be an opening.

    It is so reminiscent of what life in Nigeria, particularly Lagos can be like. A beautiful backdrop where life can be at a standstill or a very bad traffic jam with people trying to cut others up every step of the way!

    Having said that, the rear looking mirror suggest that the problems are behind. Therefore may God let stagnation and problems be behind us always IJN!

  2. Will call the pics ‘Looking Back’. We need a moment to take a look at things we left behind and reflect. Sometimes we fail to see the beauties in those things we come across everyday irrespective of how bad they may first appear. Imagine the inner peace after that view. Unfortunately some of us miss it. Thanks for this beautiful but rare picture. Have a wonderful Friday and a great weekend.

  3. You have a beautiful mind Hajara…………

    Perspective is such a strong concept….A wise friend told me to always see life as a glass half full….meaning that while half of it is empty, and might represent, the could have and should have and the lack,it also shows possibilities, hope, advancement…… He added that if we keep our focus on what we already have, it helps maintain a positive outlook to achieve much more……
    Too bad there is traffic, rather than get worked up over a situation we little or no influence over, why not enjoy the moment, listen to the radio or some soft music…I sometimes derive fun from just watching other motorists…there is always something to smile about…it might be a lady dancing to music only she can hear in her car or a couple having an argument or two young lovers (lol) or nature….
    live,love, smile….life is beautiful, so enjoy each moment!

    1. Aww, thank you Damie! Yes o! Life is what you make of it. Give 2 people identical circumstances and their perception of it and what it means to them, will determine whether or not they succeed and thrive or wilt and die! LOL! I think of Oprah often and I think that with her start in life, there is no reason why she is not a junkie who is attempting suicide! But look what she’s made of those circumstances- they happened to her but they are not her!

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