I FEEL WORKEY!


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I just had to share this! My little one wants a Nintendo 3DS for Christmas and because he’s now 7, we have started teaching him to earn his own money, save and buy the occasional item for himself (besides, it won’t be long before he finds out about Santa, better to prepare him for the real world). So, when he started on the 3DS issue, we sat down and did the calculations, to get the 3DS he needs almost N21,000 before Christmas and to get the 2DS, he needs to have made N11,000 by Christmas!

He earns between N75 (for clearing up dishes and cleaning the table) and N100 for bigger chores. He also earns something when he reads and storybook and writes an essay about it, amongst other things…

Anyhow, we had the conversation about the Nintendo DS 2 days ago and today, I had a lot of house work to do. I noticed he was helping out a lot and asking for more to do. At some point, I say “I’m really tired and have to go out soon!” Next thing I hear is “why Mummy?! I feel workey!” I laughed a lot! First it’s a positive whine (my very first encounter with that). More importantly, I saw why he felt “workey”! He has a goal! Every chore he does adds to achieving that goal, so of course, he felt “workey”!

I wanted to share that with you and to ask what goals you have set. That’s what having a firm and compelling goal does for you, it energizes you, keeps you on track and helps you decide what steps you must take to achieve the goal. Whether it’s to fit into that dress, buy that car, open that business, setting your goals; what (specific), how (what actions do I need to take), when (by what time), gives you the clarity and focus it takes to achieve them.

I decided a long time ago, that I wanted to have a certain quality of life that allowed me travel the world and do work that is important and congruent with my purpose. So right now, I feel “workey” as well! Must rush out to a meeting and close that deal! What makes you feel “workey” this week? Where should you feel more “workey”- where should you set higher goals, want/achieve more? Think about it and don’t forget to be awesome this week!

8 replies to “I FEEL WORKEY!

  1. Hajara, as an about-to-marry, the conversations with my partner, somehow, are usually themed around how -not what- we want our kids to turn out, and the character we hope for them to own.

    You’ve shared, with us, the very pragmatic, straight-to-point, quintessence of the how.

    Your example is a once-fit-all strategy; should work for all children. I’ve shared this post with Tarila (and marked it “crucial”)

    Thanks Hajara!

    1. Aww! Thank you so much Seiyefa! I am glad to have helped… Knowing you, your hardwork and determination to do excellent work, your kids will turn great! Just make sure you invest your time in them, pray for them and then try not to control the journey too much. You are raising kids to be great adults, not raising them to be great kids… Thanks for stopping by, I miss all BLCL folks!

  2. Thank for sharing this.
    Sooooooo many parents need to read this. I love the message this post is pasing but I love your encounter with your son more.
    Parents should learn to teach their kids what life can really be. I’m sure u can afford the 3DS without putting him through all these but its very much needed.
    You see parents now buy cars worth million for children that haven’t even earned a dime from house chores, talk more of knowing what people go through to make such money, they dey come out, look at those working to earn a living like shit.
    The good thing is tables turn and God usually blesses people’s hustle

    1. Thank you so much Elsie! I totally agree that we need to teach our children the value of money and the pride that comes with earning your own. Also, saving is a discipline and teaching them to save cash till they can afford what they want, hopefully teaches them to avoid debt in future! Thank you for stopping by and for your beautiful comment. I appreciate it.

  3. It so interesting,although a times fearful to get to know that children easily emulate whoever is around them. Take for instance, the nanny that took care of your son must have been saying “na be be that” often to the hearing of your son. I think mothers should either quit work or look for a 3 work day in a week to be able to spend more time with toddler, because it is atths stage that they pick every words, attitude around them. Like your page ma.

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